considering that something like gskill ripjaws x 1866/9 is only about $72 and for the same price or more you can get 1600/9 it really makes sense to get the 1866 if its the same price and the same cas.
as far as a difference... there is a fairly decent leap when going from 1333 to 1600 but less of a difference going onwards from there. how much difference will be determined by what tasks you do. the difference can be very slight or the differences can be in the 3-5% range.
most games are cpu or gpu limited not ram limited which is why you will not see as much improvement there. you will see the most improvement on programs which are heavily influenced by ram read/writes.
on something like photoshop or video editing or other task in...