hi,
please check in msconfig > boot > advanced options > maximum memory is NOT checked. you also need 64bit version of Windows to use more than 4GB RAM.
refer to your motherboard manual, insert both sticks in the correct slots, usually 1,3 or 2,4 to activate dual channel config.
if you've recently change your cpu cooler or reseated it, check that it's not overtight or misaligned, I would try to loosen it and tighten each side incrementally to balance the pressure.
try reset your BIOS by taking out the battery and waiting 5 minutes then reinsert (with PC powered OFF).