Success at last!
I reinstalled Windows 7 with only the SSD drive hooked up, as far as HD drives, and both the BD-Reader and other DVD writer hooked up to the Intel SATA 2 ports.
After running the Windows updates I then installed (licensed!) Office 2010, etc, and put on two new hard drives for storage and for Acronis backup. The storage drive is on an Intel SATA 3 (SATA 3 (0) ) connector and the backup drive on the SATA 2, Intel controller.
EVERYTHING works, including some items I'd have trouble with (a USB sound card for ham radio, the BD-R, as noted, an older printer) and all is happy. I can now boot with only the SSD connected, etc.
For the Hard Drives I went with two Hitachi HDS723015BLA642. They are 1.5gb SATA III with 64mb cache.
The M/B is hanging from 26 to 29 degrees, the processor idles around 27 and will get up to 36 or so momentarily when doing something in Turboboost As noted before it's the 65 watt version. So I could someday replace it with an i5 2500K and I bet run 4ghz on air, but I don't game, I don't edit videos...I just wanted something I'd be happy with in three years.
Thanks for sticking with me on this. I think having that LG blu-ray reader attached when I installed Windows was critical.