There is no BIOS change or update to get high density sticks to work, as Intel chipsets from Nehalem to Ivy Bridge could only use up to 4 gigabit RAM chips. 16 chips=8GB sticks maximum. If the 8GB sticks have fewer chips than this, they won't work.
If they are the correct low density sticks then you may be able to persuade them to work at an overclocked (for the memory controller) speed of 1866/933 or 1600/800 with some extra voltage. Keep in mind the stock speed is only 1333/667.