I read somewhere that you should buy kits?
Picture a little old man sitting at a bench with a motherboard. Surrounded by bins. He plugs 2 sticks into the board. If they work, he ships them off to packaging. If they don't, he reaches behind him into a bin containing thousands of identical batch ram. He can do that all day long, having that amount of access to compatible pairings.
You buy an upgrade kit to add ram, you have access to exactly 1 kit. Chances of compatibility might be Good, but Good is a long way from Perfect or Guaranteed.
QVL isn't Gospel. It's not perfect, nor complete. It's often a duplicate. There's only a handful of actual OEMs for ram, like Micron, Samsung, SkHynix, Nanya etc. They make the ram for every vendor. So in the QVL, if you see a list of 3600MHz ram with 6 models, a couple might be SkHynix, a couple Samsung or even All Samsung. So if the vendor tested Patriot Elite 3600 which uses Samsung B-die, it's also a given that g-skill Trident-Z with Samsung B-die is the same thing. The difference between the 2 being the shape of the heatsink and the name on the label. The insides are the same pcb, the same chips from the same OEM.
Also, models:
CMW32GX4M2Z3600C18
CMK32GX4M2D3600C18
CMH32GX4M2D3600C18W
Exactly the same thing. The first kit has RGB and is black, the second kit is just black, the third kit is RGB and White. All 3 the exact same SkHynix chips, pcb etc, only difference is the color of the heatsink. These are 2x16Gb kits at 3600/CL18. Even a 4x8Gb kit is almost identical, except it has only half the same chips on it on one side vs 2 sided, but has a seriously different model number.
QVL is qualified Vendor list, not Qualified Ram list, the motherboard tested the vendors ram, but in reality has quantified the testing of all the vendors who use the same guts. If I saw CMH32GX4M2D3600C18W tested, I'd know that any 2x16Gb SkHynix ram at 3600MHz/Cas 18 will be the same thing, whether it's Corsair LPX or Adata XPG or Patriot Viper or Kingston HyperX or Gskill RipJaws V.
And have the same chances of working as an identical kit when mixed.
Using the QVL as a tool is definitely a good thing, but you can use a hammer for more things than just hammering nails into wood. If you cannot find the exact model number, find what really is the same thing, it's in there, somewhere, under a different model number or even vendor name.