When you reach a situation where security updates are necessary FOR A CAR, you've officially gone overboard with "connected" technology. Until you are actually building a self-driving car, anything having to do with the core components - engine, transmission, steering, gas/brake - has no reason to be connected to the Internet. Those parts worked fine without any computer assistance for 100 years, and with non-connected computers for the last 20. If you want to prevent an attack, physical isolation is the only 100% sure way to do it, and on a car, there is no reason why it should not be.