Right, hold on let me get a bit more info so I can help you properly.
So at the moment your voltage is still set to "Auto" in your BIOS,
and you said you managed 4.3Ghz without changing the voltage, correct???
If that's correct that could be pretty good, but if you would like me to help you I would prefer to work with more info to make it easier and safer.
Ok, download CPUZ as mentioned above it's a must have for OC'ers, you will also need a monitoring app such as HWMonitor or HWInfo64, personally I prefer HWInfo64 but that's me. HWInfo will give you accurate readings of your temps (min, avge & max) load readings, all your systems voltages, RAM, GPU e.t.c... it will basically show you everything you'll need and some. Also download RealTemp or CoreTemp both are great I use RealTemp GT, this is just so you have 2 app monitoring temps in case one gives a bad reading you have a back up.
Once you have these apps you need to run IBT again on extreme setting at 4.3 and at stock voltage like you did last time. I also saw you asked if IBT was any good, well yes it is very good, so is Prime95 but I prefer IBT as it gives more feedback to stability/instability and temps are always a little higher with IBT over Prime95 especially if you test on Extreme setting which you should be doing. Showing the highest temps is a good thing as you know that normal programs, apps and games will never push your system as much as IBT does, so if your max temp with IBT is lets say 85c, you know games and apps won't push you past 75c which gives you a bit of headroom in case of a fan breaking or a seriously hot day. Also I've found that if you're very close to being stable but not quite there, Prime95 can take hours to show instability but IBT shows it fairly quick.
So just to recap, you have IBT already, so DL CPUZ, RealTemp and HWInfo64 or equal apps, have them all running at the same time, then start the burn test on extreme and run it for an hour or 2. I'm only saying an hour as you seem to have run it already, and you will need to run it again later as well.
When you have done this, write down all the temps readings (Idle and max temp under 100% load), your max and average voltage from HWInfo64, then we will go from there about pushing it safely higher and higher.
P.S. It's also a good idea to keep a thermometer in the room to monitor ambient temps. If you can, try keeping the ambient temp constant to get a true reflection of your temps.