Where did you find that Q6600 is compatible, I did not see it on the list of processors shipped with Optiplex 960
Intel Quad Core processors
Intel Core 2 Quad Q9650/3.00GHz,12M,1333FSB
Intel Core 2 Quad Q9550/2.83GHz,12M,1333FSB
Intel Core 2 Quad Q9400/2.66GHz,6M,1333FSB
Intel Dual Core processors
Intel Core 2 Duo E8600/3.33GHz, 6M, 1333FSB
Intel Core 2 Duo E8500/3.16GHz,6M,1333FSB
Intel Core 2 Duo E8400/3.0GHz,6M,1333FSB
link
http://www.dell.com/downloads/global/products/optix/en/desktop-optiplex-960-technical-guidebook-en.pdf
Anyway, you can not use 630i heatsink, because Optiplex has proprietary motherboard mounting, you stuck here.
However, check how your heatsink looks like, do you see any yellow parts there, if yes, you have copper heatsink, if not you have aluminum. Quads require copper one as most efficient, aluminum is only for Core 2 Duo.
There is the way to place many more fans in this case to improve airflow, this is for the next post, I need to find this info (have it somewhere).
Video card. The maximum today available is 7770, which can fit, let me explain. I use this post before and some links there might be wrong or discontinued, anyway take a look.
THIS POST APPLICABLE TO MT (MINI TOWER) FORM FACTOR ONLY.
Unfortunately no card that is more than 7.5 inches long or 2 slots wide will PHYSICALLY FIT inside the case - it was found that only single bracket video card can fit due to BTX MOBO, where card internals facing upward towards PC internals, not ATX, where dual card design is blocking another PCI slot by facing downward.
If you prefer the card with beefier fan, then the length of the card must not exceed 7.5 inches, otherwise only "skinny" single bracket, single slot cards can physically fit.
Pictures below will prove my point.
View shows no room for dual bracket
Single bracket only, or you have to cut dual bracket in half
Here you can clearly see only single place for the bracket
Visual explanation
7.5 inches explained, also shown "obstacles"
This is the picture of actual "skinny" single slot video card (not sure which model)- perfect, "glove" fit.
So, I found 2 GDDR5 7750 cards and one DDR3 4GB (GDDR5 is better than GDDR3, even if GDD3 offers 2 GB RAM or more), which confirmed in reviews to fit Optiplex gx620, 745 and 755 cases (the difference between those models are different processors).
Skinny, flimsier in terms of construction, completely single slot XFX 7750
http://www.amazon.com/XFX-DisplayPort-PCI-Express-FX775AZNP4-FX-775A-ZNP4/dp/B007Z3T5JC
A bit beefier cooler, not as skinny, more durable in construction PowerColor AX7750
http://www.amazon.com/PowerColor-AX7750-1GBD5-DH-Video-Graphics/dp/B00775OC28/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1362783129&sr=8-1&keywords=AX7750+1GBD5-DH
If you need Video card for working with high resolutions,
BUT NOT FOR GAMING, PowerColor AX7750 4GBK3-H Radeon HD 7750 4GB is
DDR3 card with huge 4GB memory, but is is not as fast as DDR5 and loosing in games
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16814131486&Tpk=7750&IsVirtualParent=1
Here is review of this card http://news.softpedia.com/news/PowerColor-Launches-Single-Slot-Radeon-HD-7750-4-GB-Video-Card-292712.shtml so this one is not for gamers!
I cannot say which one of those 2 DDR5 is better, both are good and got less bad reviews related to structural build.
I saw recent recommendation regarding drivers "Changing to the just-released AMD catalyst 13.2 BETA driver improved performance noticeably in just about every game" posted 03/05/2013. So older drivers are worse, can not comment about the newer ones, so this part is take it or leave it.
Next will follow maximum possible upgrade, 7750 is weaker...
So far I found only 2 7770 video cards which will fit inside - PowerColor AX7770
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16814131477
HIS H777FN1G Radeon HD 7770 very tight fit, almost touching heatsink
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16814187200
From NVIDIA I see SPARKLE 700025 (SX650TI1024KD) GeForce GTX 650 Ti
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16814187200
7750 cards do not require power supply upgrade, 650 TI and 7770 are.
There are so many options available here so I would just recommend one of the good one CORSAIR CX500M (modular), which has just enough power
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16817139050 Also, with modular you can get rid of extra cables, believe me there are a lot of them.
You need 500 watt at least, stronger is better depending on your money.