What your friend is trying to tell you is that your system might be running in single channel due to that single module of 8GB ram.
I am assuming your motherboard has 4 slots for ram. The 2x4GB ram, if installed in the same color slots, should have been running in dual channel configuration. When you installed that extra module of 8GB of ram, it was probably put into an available slot of a different color. At this point, it is quite likely that your system is forced to run your ram in single channel configuration. In theory, this would half the memory bandwidth and affect performance.
However, we know that this is only in THEORY. You can find many tests and benchmarks done online that demonstrates that the actually real world...