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"Annie Benson Lennaman" <teapray@real.people.only.yahoo.com> wrote in
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> LoonBoon wrote:
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> > This guild was described as an adult guild when I joined. There is
constant
> > sexual innuendo chat which no one seems to mind.
> > But she tosses me for saying 'bastard'...It's her guild and she makes
the
> > rules, but c'mon...bastard???
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> Well, you're right about it being her guild and her rules... but she
> also has a duty to make the rules very clear to her members, I feel. Is
> there a website anywhere that lists the guild's charter and rules? Has
> any mention of any rules been made at all? If she is making snap "this
> is wrong enough to toss you out" decisions then I think that her guild
> is going to suffer greatly for it. Sure, it might be funny to others
> when it happens to *you* (and I'm not saying it was), but how will they
> feel the next time someone, maybe a good friend of theirs, gets tossed
> out with as little deliberation or ceremony? It happens two or three
> times and everyone is going to feel a sword dangling over their heads.
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> Saying "bastard" in guild chat doesn't seem bad to me, but we both
> agree that it is her right to call shots like this. Still, she could of
> handled it better. A simple tell to you of "Hey, I don't think that's
> appropriate language. I mean this guild to be kid friendly." might
> have gone a long way to let you know she was serious. Now, I don't
> think that it was terribly appropriate of you to say "Bite me" to your
> guild leader, and I think that response, rather than the word "bastard"
> is what got you kicked out. If she can't handle that word, the
> implications behind "bite me" probably sent her into a tail spin!
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> On the whole, I think this was probably a good thing for you. Guild
> leaders need to have a cool head when dealing with members, and a bit of
> patience helps as well. Seems she was short on both counts. I doubt
> that her guild will flourish in the long run.
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> Annie
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> AGE EverQuest Live FAQ:
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http://www.icynic.com/~don/EQ/age.faq.htm
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> Mirrored at:
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http://webpages.charter.net/lenny13/age.faq.htm
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http://www.derfy.net/agefaq.html
While I am not saying this story is in any way untrue, what we do not hear
is if there had ever been any similar incidents in the past. Having been in
a situation similar to this on more than one occasion, I can say that the
removal from the guild was the result of a "last straw" type situation.
In my case, the individual had been spoken to more than once about his
behavior, in one case he had been killing both Misty Thicket guards and
Ak'Anon guards, something that was specifically precluded in our charter.
We were a "Good" guild and such actions reflected negatively on us as a
whole. After repeated warnings, he refused because "the exp is TOO damn
good!" So, he was removed. This person then proceeded to bad mouth the
rest of us individually and as a group to anyone who would listen. So...
While this may have been his first and only infraction, he, like many of us,
may be putting the best spin on it he can to garner sympathy from the group
and make himself feel better about what he brought upon himself.
Now, Loon, before you get defensive, I am not saying that this is the case,
just pointing out, for those of us who where not there and witness to the
incident, that there may be another side to the story that we do not have.
Just tossing another perspective into the pot.
Fingon etal.
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