toolmaker_03 :
well i thought that i was buying 2 2 gig sticks but thay sent me 4 1 gig sticks and of two diffrent sets the same speed but diffrent boxes for each set of two
If the motherboard you're using is the one listed in your sig, the ASUS Crosshair II it does not cooperate well when you fill all 4 memory slots and overclock, as a matter of fact, the ASUS Striker II Extreme even makes a reference to that issue in the manual.
Even though it does not reference that in the Crosshair II manual, I have discovered from my own experience with that same motherboard, which I have in my hands right now,
when it comes to overclocking, a matched set of memory modules in the 2 primary slots, will give you your best stable overclock results, and that M/B slot limit is 2G module per slot.
I definitely make reference to that in the Black Edition Overclock guide, however I'm sure from past experience with you, that about 2 weeks from now when you're still stumped, you may consider what I've just shared with you is some good info, or maybe not.
The Black Edition overclock guide has been there all along and thousands have used it successfully to overclock their machines so actually I've long since done my part to help you, but sometimes it's frustrating to see you bouncing around like a ball in a pin ball machine.
Continuing with advice to you; two independently bought 2x matched sets, will never be able to run the initial timings across 4x modules, same voltage yes, timings NO!
Additionally, hopefully you marked somehow the sets that came packaged together because they may not work mismatched with the other modules, I've seen that happen!
I suggest getting a matched set of 4G 2 x 2G and only populate the 2 primary DDR2 slots of that motherboard, for your best overclocking capabilities, and until you can acquire them use just 2 modules of what you have on hand.