how to go with the ram which is not in the qvl list of my mothes board?

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Yep need more info, i.e. if looking at the Fury line of sticks from Kingston, they operate, compatibility wise using PnP and only with specific chipsets, also if you have an older mobo, some of the newer lines of DRAM use 4Gb ICs (chips which aren't compatible to many older mobos
Assuming that the ram is of proper type, it should work, but no guarantees.

You want documented ram compatibility. If you should ever have a problem, you want supported ram.
Otherwise, you risk a finger pointing battle between the ram and motherboard support sites, claiming "not my problem".
One place to check is your motherboards web site.
Look for the ram QVL list. It lists all of the ram kits that have been tested with that particular motherboard.
Sometimes the QVL list is not updated after the motherboard is released.
For more current info, go to a ram vendor's web site and access their ram selection configurator.
Enter your motherboard, and you will get a list of compatible ram kits.
While today's motherboards are more tolerant of different ram, it makes sense to buy ram that is known to work and is supported.
 
Honestly as long as you use ram that is correct speed, (and a good brand), Not Rdimms, ECC, Or Buffered you should likely be ok. However without knowing the ram, and motherboard brand it is hard to say. Some Lesser motherboard brands are Biostar, Foxconn, etc are less compatible and will cause issues especially with No-Name brand rams.
 
Yep need more info, i.e. if looking at the Fury line of sticks from Kingston, they operate, compatibility wise using PnP and only with specific chipsets, also if you have an older mobo, some of the newer lines of DRAM use 4Gb ICs (chips which aren't compatible to many older mobos
 
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