I can’t have my own pc in my room

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So, I do realize this is a bit embarassing, but I’m currently 16 years old, (17 in about 4 months) and my parents won’t let me have my own pc in my room. About a year ago I built my first computer (paid it for myself) and they wouldn’t let me have it in my room then. Same thing now, they say that I cannot ”control my time and life” well enough.
Now, I’d understand this if I was addicted to video games, played around the clock etc. but none of that is really happening. At best I’ve played like 30h max in the last two weeks according to steam and that was during my VACATION when I wasn’t in school or anything. I don’t game at night either, maybe once untill 00:30 am but even that was during summer.
Therefore this policy of my parents really confuses and upsets me considering I’ve been asking to have my pc in my room for a long time now. Maybe they want me to focus more on school during the upcoming semester but I’m at the point where I chose the school I’ll be going to next, basically volunteerly. So what gives? Do you guys think this is reasonable? Comments, suggestions?
 

Eximo

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It does seem rather strict in this day and age where computers are ubiquitous. To be perfectly frank, in their position I would rather see how you handle it now, rather than later in university where it can significantly impact your life.

The only argument in their favor seems to be that they paid for it, and can have such restrictions in place on what is essentially their property.

If you go out and buy the thing on your own, then they really can't have a say in the matter. They could still restrict your access to the internet, I suppose.

You can also explain that there are software packages available that would let them restrict your computer use by hours or what have you. Or just by configuring the router to deny MAC addresses by hour.

But if they don't find you trustworthy enough at 16, then I'm not really sure what to say to that.
 
There comes a time in life where you get to set your own rules and make your own decisions. You aren't there yet.
Whether you or any of us agree with your parents is irrelevant, they set the expectations and you are stuck with it.

If you really think it's unreasonable put together your best arguments and try to convince them, but if you fail you just have to accept it.
It's a few years out of what is hopefully a long life, you'll survive without a pc in your room.
 
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I don't think so to be honest. I mean, phones, tablets etc. have been invented for that and I'm literally never doing anything shady anyway when they look at my screen every now and then.
 
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We tried the restriction applications with my previous computer and that really didn't help my case. Now that I have my own pc which I personally paid for, it seems a bit out of place to do.
 

The Paladin

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your not gaming at night and control it because your parent do not let you have it in your room, playing it all night
simple isn't it? like the rest of our parents back in the days when I was 17, the rules were similar, "this is my house and as long as you reside under my roof, these are my rules, and if you think it will get better when your 18. don't hold your breath...

complete your college, get a paying job get your own place, then you can see how restraint can be difficult and will look back at the time when your parents where managing your sleeping time and life and think they did a great job.

suck it up big boy. go outside the house and go find yourself a girl... there is much more interesting things that beat playing with a computer all night long :)
 
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Is your privacy compromised in other areas too? In western countries children enjoy a lot more privacy than in Asia. These days it is very easy to get allured to gadgets and computers(which these days compute less and entertain more, let alone infinite scrolling of Facebook timeline), and attaining physical adulthood is earlier than psychological maturity; I don't think you'll regret your parents' decision in the future, especially when you become one yourself. Gaming and porn are not the only harmful ones; I spoilt my college life getting excessively involved in hardware and overclocking. In our childhood days the television used to be known as the fool's box. Both of these reduce our actual social involvement. We need to meet people and go places for spiritual development to occur. Science and technology ain't everything; there're things called empathy, romanticism and literature. I doubt whether these will ring bells in 22nd century. Don't misunderstand me, you'd not miss a few years' restriction. Just go out and enjoy the world.
 

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