Ram on your GPU is different from the RAM you drop in on your motherboard.
The first issue is you trying to mix and match your rams. I've said it's bad practice since you need to look at ram upgrades similar to what you'd do when you'd loose one of your shoes out of a pair. You can find the same pair at the retail outlet but the sales man wont sell you just one. You're going to have to buy a pair. Likewise since your board has 4 ram slots, you're going to have to go for a 4xYGB kit.
Then there's the issue of not understanding how to update the BIOS. If you don't know what you're doing it's best you step back since a bricked board would only result in more hair tugging. What version are you on currently and what version have you found? Using the wrong BIOS = hair tugging time.
Now I'll also need the SKU to your system. Some search results lead to other spec'd dx4820's with a 2 digit number separated by a -
Once we figure out which motherboard you have and the maximum capacity of ram it can handle is when you can make further progress. Haphazardly buying things wont solve it if your board's limited to DDR3-1333 due to the BIOS. On another note, with only your single stick of Crucial ram, did you try in each slot? You can't mix it with other sticks in your inventory.