Why Xeons slower than Raptors?
First, Intel always has a lag between desktop and server/workstation CPUs. These are based on Gen 12, not 13. Intel says they improved their "Intel 7" process for gen 13, but these are probably still made on the original Intel 7 process and lack the other tweaks that went into Raptor Lake. Emerald Rapids is supposed to launch by the end of the year, and that will be derived from Gen 13 (Raptor Lake). I have no idea if they'll refresh the Xeon W lineup for Emerald Rapids, though.
Second, Xeons are meant to be reliable and sustain 24/7 workloads for the warranty period, so they reduce clock speeds to benefit stability and data integrity.
Third, it's a bigger die with a bigger interconnect, more PCIe, more memory channels, etc. That overhead eats into the power budget.
Finally, these CPUs have the accelerators and features like AMX. Sometimes also bigger L3 cache slices. That also eats into the power budget. And, because servers are aimed at lower clockspeeds for efficiency reasons, their critical paths might be longer (i.e. not permitting them to be clocked as high).
If you want higher clockspeeds, sit tight and wait to see how well these overclock, and with what type of cooling. Otherwise, just buy Raptor Lake or a Ryzen 7950X (esp. if you really want AVX-512).