Do the sensible thing, tell manufacturers like Netgear and Asus to go *** with their overpriced underpowered con..sumer trash and build your own. Buy a cheap mini PC (build one or ex-corporate mini desstops of eBay), with multiple 2.5GbE or 10GbE ports, superior low power x64 cpus, standard memory, NVME/SSD storage, install Proxmox/XCP-NG as your bare metal hypervisor and then run Pfsense/Opnsense as your firewall/DHCP, piHole as your spam/advert/nasties filter, Unbound as your DNS server bypassing your ISP and OpenVPN all as virtual machines and finally purchase your own access points that match your speed/bandwith needs and fully configurable, nothing locked out behind paywalls and you also get the benefit of better security and generally superior updates and longer support.
Your general con..sumer router is all of the above but of lower quality, especially the software and yes I am going down this route !