TJ, I didn't mean to sound like I was scolding you. It is confusing for sure, and I saw a picture and it was for sure different. Let me find the link. Sometimes the claims are bogus on the internet. LOL. Tom's ran an article a couple of days ago talking about the difference between the 12VHPWR and the new approved (agreed by whatever standard entity that was - I forget) 12V-2x6 connector. There were some differences in the socket and the plug. But I am not an expert. I'm just building a high-end rig very soon and I don't want to be forever chasing the latest and delaying everything 5 times (like I have), but I don't want to buy anything with the 12VHPWR connector. The same article said that NVidia was "quietly" changing the connector on their 4090 right now as they already did on the 4070. It is a different connector. It is not the same. Also, MSI announced that their new PSUs would use the new connector, not the 12VHPWR connector and the new cables. But I could be wrong on this so please correct me....
I would argue that "different connector" either means "physically incompatible" or "has things that are functionally different." Like USB-C is a different connector to USB-A, or USB-A 3.0 is a different connector than USB-A 2.0. You can still plug in an older 12VHPwr cable into these things.
While I get the concern and such regarding the older 12VHPwr connector, as long as you're diligent with it, especially if you're connecting it to a 350W+ part, it's more than likely fine. Otherwise, we would have more exploding 4090s and 3090s than not.
I will also still argue that internal connections aren't designed for the average consumer to handle. Like you can easily break an internal USB 3.0 header (which I've done more than a handful of times in some form or fashion), but it's much harder to break the consumer facing connector. I mean heck, look at CPU sockets. LGA is a much more finnicky beast and has a higher risk of being broken should something go wrong than PGA. And yet it's where everyone's at now with higher-end CPU sockets.