bdsafa, it appears your HDD unit has a serious problem. You could try using the manufacturer's diagnostic utilities as I suggested. If your HDD came from Seagate or Maxtor, get their Seatools for DOS; if it came from WD, get their Data Lifegard package. If it's from another maker, look around their website. These may tell you something helpful, or may just confirm that there is no hope left for resurrecting the drive.
Tonius, we need more information to help. Specify exactly what mobo maker and model number you have, maker and model of the HDD unit you are trying to add, what HDD units and optical drives already are installed and connected to what ports? Drivers for SATA ports are not hard to get and you certainly don't pay for them. Windows itself usually sets these up when it is installed, although conceivably a very old Windows might not have them. If Windows does not have them you can always download from the website of your mobo manufacturer the latest drivers for the mobo SATA ports (or, more likely, for all the mobo devices) and install them. But I would be surprised if any installation of a current Windows version does not have SATA port drivers already installed.
Freezing during the BIOS BOOT process is NOT a driver issue. If it freezes before ever showing you any Windows splash screen, the problem is that the BIOS is encountering errors when it tries to access the HDD, long before it ever gets to loading any part of Windows.
One possible source of these symptoms comes when you try to install a modern SATA II disk drive in a mobo with older original SATA controllers. The original system for SATA communicated with the drive at a max 1.5 Gb/s rate, while SATA II is twice that speed. Current SATA II disks are supposed to be able to detect this situation and solve it, dropping back automatically to the slower communication rate. But sometimes that does not work, so drive makers have ways to force them to slow down if necessary. This is only applicable to the specific combination of original SATA controller and more modern SATA II drive units. If that is your situation, post here and we can advise.