Looks like you swore to provide an answer here..hehehe
I would disagree here --->If you buy two sticks of (what it says on the pack is) 9-9-9-24 and one of them happens to be 10-10-10-27 in reality and potentially OCable to 9-9-9-24......
If both the SPD and sticker says its 9-9-9-24 even though it was tested for only 10-10-10-27, BIOS will run it at that setting, it it runs fine no problem, if it causes problem, which is likely, it needs to be RMAed, (the manufaccturer here took the risk of getting more items RMAed as you stated earlier. On the other hand if the sticker said 9-9-9-24 and SPD says 10-10-10-27, the company cheated and (can be sued). BIOS will run it at its SPD timings and you have to manually overclock to get 9-9-9-24 timings(if you are lucky). BIOS never tries to overclock anything on itself, it can downclock for compatibility however.
Since I am talking two good RAMs with same specs, it rules out the above situation, that might happen in real life.
----->The BIOSs of the motherboard(s) in question really determine how things like this are going to go down a lot of the time.
I tend to believe this cause some bios can run dual channel even if specs are different to bigger extent, of course at lowest common denominator. But and this is the ever persistent but, I believe if all specs including hidden specs(rank and no of chips, no of rows and columns) are same, and RAM are good in single channel they will be good in dual channel too in any board. Mileage varies if they not of same specs(including rank and all). Do you not believe this?
I know dual channel is over-hyped, but even if gain is 1fps, I am not complaining.
As for you wife's PC, you are not really overclocking the ram. just the memory controller.( 800Mhz running at 800Mhz is not overclocked) My gut says they would work fine at 800Mhz.(If you are brave enough
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And about the question on finding difference between two systems that behave identically to any possible input; you cannot. It was the basis of Einstein's theory of relativity.
About six sigma and all, All mechanical are taught that, not sure about civil, but is pretty important for them. Not so much for electrical engineers. Im not sure how do I know about six sigma, albeit a little.Try searching the terms on google, it will show autofills for mechanical,civil but not for electrical untill si of sigma.