DougOrama :
It has those crappy plastic pins. I can't access the back of the motherboard without removing it, which I really don't want to do. Can't take off the mobo side panel because it's riveted on.
I cleaned off the old crud off the CPU and original cooler surfaces and applied some of the cool master heatsink stuff and it's actually running hotter then before. I checked thoroughly to make sure the fan is secure. Very frustrating. I still have my little bathroom utility fan blowing into the case.
Overheat.
Have you cleaned up both surfaces prior to applying thermal paste?
Those are the ones I am always using, you can also find them in local store like Fry's or RadioShack Arctic Silver 5 including cleaning solution
http://www.amazon.com/Arctic-Silver-Thermal-Compound-ArctiClean/dp/B001FVI91U/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1397627218&sr=8-2&keywords=arctic+silver+5
And proper application method
http://www.arcticsilver.com/intel_application_method.html I don't know what your CPU is so you have to check and choose the most appropriate one.
Since you are not overclocking, but need just a better cooler, than what you have now, you can just simply get anything LGA775 with plastic pin downs.
Here are some examples http://www.newegg.com/Product/ProductList.aspx?Submit=Property&N=100008000%20600035312%20600035305%20600035306%20600035308%20600035310%20600338010%20600035362%20600035371%20600110698%20600110699%20600035368%20600418162%20600035373%20600035363%20600035370%20600035356%20600035366%20600291733%20600291732%20600035361%20600335651%20600456361%20600413948%20600418200%20600456464%20600035327%20600035357%20600360497%20600110700&IsNodeId=1&bop=And&Pagesize=100&Page=1. First remember that 120 MM cooler would not fit, so you are looking for 90mm-110mm at most, mostly 90mm, 92mm, 95mm (that one could be flat.
This is what you must avoid for 2 reasons, first it has implanted screws, so unless you want to remove motherboard, no go, and second, you can not change fan on those
Picture, avoid that one and similar
Below is the most preferable type, you can use any fan, since it is not proprietary
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16835119158
You can see use of pins, so you don't have to remove motherboard.
Those are just examples. Which one is good for you, well take a look around. The list I got is not everything good, there is Cooler Master Hyper TX3
http://www.amazon.com/Cooler-Master-Hyper-TX3-RR-910-HTX3-G1/dp/B0028Y4S9K/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1397755133&sr=8-1&keywords=Cooler+Master+Hyper+TX3
Look at mounting possibilities
And as you can see, it can use any 92 mm fan, which is very good.
Now a little bit about PWM - software fan control. I know for fact that Dell Inspirons do not have user fan contorl, only BIOS preset. XPS can be the same, so I would buy that CM TX3, take away that fan and install 92 mm fan with dual connectors,
Like this one
http://www.amazon.com/CityNet-CFS-92-SB-92MM-Case-Fan/dp/B00757E0B6/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1397755571&sr=8-1&keywords=citynet+92mm
So total cost would be $8 for extra fan + $26 and shipping, I think it is most reasonable in your case, combining with Arctic Silver 5 you should sleep well.
Here you can see 2 connectors, smaller for motherboard, and larger directly to power supply, this way you will override BIOS settings, your fan will work at 100% speed, a bit noisy, but very efficient, I had this exact setup a few years back, I survived, and I was cooling down 125 watt CPU.
Anything else I can help you with?