Although a larger temperature gradient means a stronger driving force which in general means more power per unit area, the flow of heat in solid is also dictated by the thermal resistance of that material. You want the metal and anything solid in the path to be as thin as possible. A large heatsink has a poor heat capacity because its designed to have the least thermal resistance and max surface area with the air. Although metal (copper) is a great conductor, once the thermal resistance gets high enough the heat flux becomes truly awful as the heat spreads out randomly under diffusion unlike say the flow of current under the force of the electric field, the thermal resistance captures this. And is why Newtons law of cooling applies more to estimating say how long until a warm drink cools down in a fridge. With metals, the medium for energy flow is the sea of electrons within the crystal lattice, there are so many and this is also why conduction (radom particle movement) works so well that defeats heat flow.
Heat is also released through other parts of the computer, like the rear of mobo, the amount of heat coming off the back of my mobo when the 7950x is bencmarking was enough that i put a fan system in place, which is why these large dual compartment cases are good. The mobo conducts heat from cpu and this shows up in nvme temps. The GPU is another pig and contributes alot of heat to my mobo. Any heat inside the PC or Laptop will make its way out just at a slower rate, its not all released by the cooling system, unless you have some insulation...A key factor in making fridges work well in summer.
Heat flow happens primarliy first via conduction or diffusion (solids interaction with solids &/or liquids), diffusion within liquids (air) that under the influence of gravity and in turn from buoyancy forces establish convection currents, which tend to move the bulk of the heat away to the sides and roof of case/openings. And finally forced convection (active cooling) which is by far the largest mode of heat transfer pound for pound due to how efficient the interaction is between air and a solid, a tiny amount of power to run a fan that removes alot of heat, thats the second law of thermodynamics. This is why you have a large case with large diameter fans, that amount of volume can reach all the places like VRMs, chipsets, nvmes etc. Finally radiative cooling plays a very small role
Now in laptops, it is aboslulety true that much of the heat can be removed from the case/body itself, for example my P72 when benchmarking at ambient roomtemp. The cpu sits at 80-84 degrees C when there is a 1.5Inch air gap under it, vs 90-94C when its siting on a flat surface. And blowing air on the bottom underside or even just the top body will be even better at removing heat, conduction happens at a frantic rate.
However it doesnt do much at all for the perf or times to finish a heavy task, only the actual cpu temps. So the temps dont give much indication of perf and heat dissapation, a low powered cpu will run hot under a heavy load. my P70 cpu is sitting at 84C just to play a 4k 60fps h.265 video, yet the P72 in same setting is like 60C!
As far as Intel goes, the insider consensus has always been chip makers test the die at 125C for 6 months under extreme conds or soemthime like that, and from that derive some model to make predictions, this it important or else they would have no way of knowing what their product can do. Which by the sounds of it means these cpus are good for 5-6years under full load at least but after that the uncertainty and lacking applicablity kicks in.