Manually set the timings (especially the cas latency), and bus to that of the slower dimm (i.e the lowest bus speed and the highest (most lax) timings)..
However you may encounter stabilty issues due to the inability of one of your sticks to run at the voltage the bios set, so you may have to manually set the voltage to the higher one.
If you are lucky you may even be able to oc the 533 mhz one to reach 800 mhz or as close as possible by raising the voltage.
Honestly, does the bios of your laptop have these options? As far as I know most laptops don't allow the user to manually change speeds and voltages. If so you may just want to drop the additional dimm and see if it works!
What OS do you use? If you use windows XP and you don't game on this laptop, then 1 Gb is enough and slowing down your ram may slow down your whole system in certain situations. Windows vista, however, will make good use of the additional ram.
Hope that helped you.