Restpecting the rights of the non-religious

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Frankly men don't have the right to decide what a woman gets to do with her body.

Lets do some hypotheticals ...

By the same token your wife doesn't get to decide if you should be neutered for knocking up your neighbours wife ... so consider yourself lucky.

You also don't get to decide if the neighbours wife should be forced to have your child either.

Your poor daughter gets to decide if she wants to keep the child she was raped and inseminated with ... not you ... not the court ... not her mother ... or the rapist.

An exception would relate to mental competence.

Don't worry ... our friends at toms (personally I think this would be a great project for crashman to head up) are working hard perfecting a robowife wife for you ... and 4 for me.

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Is that just what you believe or can you cite historical and societal records that demonstrate morality existed before religion? This is a legitimate question as I have often wondered which came first, morality or religion, in my own learning and spiritual understanding.

From all the reading I have done, I have concluded (so far) that it is practically impossible for a society to form absent of any kind of religion. As demonstrated in the Wiki article linked by jaydeejohn and other early neolithic period human made structures, they all were created and used for religious observances.

Think about this, morals are derived from values. Values are the inherent sense of right and wrong held by the individual. Morality implies a greater societal agreement as to what is right and wrong and the motivation to act morally for the greater good of society. By our nature and very being, as a result of an enlarged frontal lobe, there is no option available to human beings other than to grow with an inherent sense of wonder about the larger world around them and postulate the inevitable questions of "why?". A child (primitive/neolithic man) without any institutionalized or formalized religious teachings will naturally gravitate towards attributing what they do not comprehend to something external to themselves. They will also naturally derive that the external forces will impose consequences for good and bad actions. It is a result of these imagined consequences that the individual comes to define their values. So, if an individual's values are based on an external force, with that external force physically manifested as an idol, charm, totem, or as an invisible higher being, then it is reasonable to conclude that an individual's values are based on an adoration or reverence for the external, i.e.; religion.

I agree that organized modern religions (like Catholicism, Islam, Judaism) are not a prerequisite for individuals to conclude they will be happier by not killing and working together. But what is a prerequisite for people (society) to collectively agree that they hold a common set of values (morality) is an adoration or reverence for something that is larger than the individual and society as a whole. Feel free to attribute that adoration or reverence to whatever (science, secular humanism, fear of the giant spaghetti monster) but it will ultimately be physically manifested as some form of religion.
 
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We have to respect the right of the non-religious. That's fine. That respect does not mean they can openly bash religions though.

You're not religious, that's fine. Those who post billboards and whatnot.. seems odd. If one does not believe, why do they care so much about pulling people away? What is the reason for trying to pull people away from believing in something?
 
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Do religious types find this offensive?
 
I don't think it's offensive. It think it's a display of intolerance and advertises the hypocrisy of progressive ideology.

Thank you Richard Dawkins...

 


Many organized religions are like that- a belief system plus a system of government that uses the belief system to control the subjects. Look at Catholicism- the Pope is a single person who is the head of the religion and also a head of state (albeit a tiny tiny state.) That is exactly analogous to the Ayatollahs, mullahs, etc. in some Muslim countries. Religion is not necessarily a government, but organized religion surely is.



There is a very strong separation of church and state in the U.S. There is no state religion and today even any implied support of a Christian religion by a publicly-funded group is very much prohibited (witness the whole banning of student prayer in schools fiascos that have occurred in the past 10-15 years.) Using religious principles in concluding that an embryo is a human life and therefore interpreting existing law to stating that abortion is murder and should be illegal is NOT establishing a state religion. Fining people for not attending a Lutheran church on Sunday would be- and that is highly illegal in the U.S.

Many arguments against gay rights, abortion, stem cell research, etc. end up with religion being a major driving force behind the opposition to these things.

They are active controversies without any real proof as to what is really going on. What makes gay people gay? Is it a normal variant or a disease process? We don't know, so the argument is going to be 100% opinion and conjecture. Ditto with "when does life really start?" No real answers, so it's all opinion. These arguments fall into the exact same category as "are bailouts good or bad?" There is no way to do a controlled trial so it essentially boils down to if you are a statist, you say yes and if you are an individualist you say no. Same with the stem cell/abortion and homosexual issues.

The "tolerant" people here can't get it and people expect a group that some consider "less tolerant" to understand?

The truth is that most of the so-called "tolerant" people are just as intolerant or even MORE intolerant than the sol-called "intolerant" people. "Progressives" are tolerant as long as you agree with them, if not, they'll seek to use every means possible to silence you and make your actions illegal. "Hate speech" and the "fairness doctrine" are the hallmarks of these folks. Individualists and libertarians are often viewed as being intolerant because they are opinionated. They'll tell you that you are evil/wrong/suck but- and this is a BIG "but"- they nearly always will grit their teeth and let you do it because they don't want to set a precedent of having the government trample individual rights lest you use it against them. Funny, huh?



Religion has gone from being a major influence in the U.S. to being basically a non-player. Roe v. Wade, the striking down of virtually all blue laws, church attendance declining by leaps and bounds...religion is on the decline in the U.S. like it is in most of Europe.

Regarding abortion, the issue is not life/death, it is the money. Remove the money from the situation and the argument is pointless. The gov't funding people to have abortions upsets a lot of people because it is something they do not believe in. Remove the money, the issue goes away.

The issue is really about POWER. Most Democrats want to give federal funding for abortion because they think it will get them more votes, and consequently, more Democrats elected to give them more votes in Congress and a "mandate" to ram through legislation the general public does not like (e.g. Obamacare.) The Dems also want more things to be under the federal purview to increase the size, scope, and ultimate power of the government they control. The Republicans oppose federal funding for abortion because some Republicans are against it based on Constitutional reasons (the government has no role in this area), some are against it on semi-religious reasons, and many are against it because Democrats are for it. Providing an opposition is popular and can win you votes. Remove the money and this will NOT go away because it is a votes/power issue.



Such a simplistic explanation.

- The person who really has to live with the consequences of an unintended/unwanted pregnancy where at least one of the parents considered an abortion is the child! It is going to be a less than ideal upbringing for them to say the least and often downright bad. Single parent, didn't really want the kid, how is that kid going to be taken care of? Generally poorly. I've seen it far too many times. The KID is the one that really suffers, not the sperm donor or sperm receptacle.

- It takes two people to have a child. The law also says that two people are financially and legally responsible for that child. Thus both "live with the consequences." However only one person gets a say as to whether an abortion or adoption is an option or not. How is that fair in the least?

You can't have your freedom of speech and right to bear arms then restrict the rights of half your population in a similar way ... can you?

That is a non sequitur.

The whole argument about the legality of abortion really revolves around how far along an embryo/fetus needs to be before it is considered to be alive. We have all agreed that a child who is born cannot have its life terminated. Killing a neonate would clearly be murder and illegal. Okay, what if that baby was born a day earlier? Would it have lived? Nearly certainly if the mother was anywhere near term. So the fetus must be alive the day before it was delivered if that is the case. So when do you consider the fetus to be alive? When docs can keep it alive in the NICU after an extremely preterm delivery- so about 24 weeks gestation? That number is not fixed and constantly keeps creeping earlier and earlier- babies born before about 34 weeks 100 years ago generally died shortly after birth but now that number is less than 24 weeks. What about when that number gets down to the point where all we need is a single-cell fertilized zygote and we can grow a viable baby outside of a uterus? We could take an 8 week embryo out of a uterus at that point and easily grow a baby. Would abortion be legal then because any embryo would be a viable pregnancy and likely to end up in a live baby? I am in no way shape or form religious but absolutely agree that an embryo/fetus is alive because it will unquestionably be alive if not disturbed. The real question is should be is killing allowable in some circumstances? That's the real question and a much tougher nut to crack as it gets into euthanasia (which abortion really is a kind of), which is why the issue is never framed that way.

The only restriction that I really see is the complete elimination of the rights of the father to have any say at all in what happens during the pregnancy of a child which is 50% his genetics and 50% his legal and financial responsibility.

Can you see the hypocracy in that?

Damn right I do.
 
Using the word kill has been politically corrected to the point where its a convenience to abort the baby, keeping the sure fire realization if left, a baby would be here, and if the abortion is carried thru, then he/she wont be.
Theres twists and turns, all not concerning religion whatsoever, such as several planned parenthood locales giving abortions according to gender, all the while avoiding the term kill, ending life etc.
Many allow for abortion, but many are totally against a China style particular sex, religious or not.
The way I see some of this is comparable to CaliforniCA, where applying for most jobs they ask if you speak a second language, of course referring to spanish, while being politically correct and not mentioning so.
Having people speak the language of the land, not having 29 differing languages taught in schools, like LA, hearing spanish being spoken everywhere, signs in spanish etc etc, is bothersome, like seeing religious symbols here and there, but we are to love our neighbor, whether the speak the language, or have a faith or dont.
 
I find it very hypocritical that some people fervor for saving every single unborn life but suddenly lose that drive to save every precious life when war rolls around. Or a convict goes up to death row.

 
I try to be as simplistic as possible in these forums mu.

The cognitive effort would be wasted discussing issues like women's rights further with a bunch of undereducated MALE teen geeks ... most who have not even had a girlfriend.

There are also no women here to speak of ... sadly.

Try putting your point of view across to them about your RIGHT to control THEIR bodies?

How many here are fathers?



 


I just assumed God was pretty clear with the whole "Thou shall not kill". There really isn't any wiggle room in there, no qualifiers for war or criminals or people you just really don't like. Its simple don't kill. Period. End of discussion.
 
Nope ... unless the mother is brain dead and on life support ... then its his choice if he is the father and the relationship is recognised.

Just because you bonk some woman and get her pregnant doesn't entitle you beyond what she wants you to have.

Seems fair to me.

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I am entertained how the left can't distinguish between someone making a choice to serve in the military or commit a serious crime, against killing an unborn life that didn't make any choices.
 


The point of this whole argument is to save lives, right? Some people consider a few cells life, I dont. When I do become a father I want it to be because I chose to be, not because I got too drunk to understand how to put on a condom and get stuck with a kid Im not ready to have (not that I have, or at least no one has come forward asking for paternity tests.....). Its not fair to the child, when the time is right Im going to be an awesome dad.

If life is so precious then one would think that the politicians would also be anti-war, and anti-death penalty, because I am my brothers keeper. I dont think this is an extreme suggestion. To protect the sanctity of life you would try to preserve it in all forms, not just the potential for one prior to birth. It just seems hypocritical to me.
 



Im totally down for the death penalty, some people need to be removed from society permanently. But, like most people in the abortion debate they are basing a bulk of their argument on faith (Always exceptions). And the Christian faith plainly says Dont kill people. Period.

 
Wait a minute, am I reading this right?

Are you saying that you would willingly abort a fetus because you got too drunk to remember how to use a condom or because you don't want to inconvenience your life with having a kid but then condemn politicians for being warmongers and supposedly not protecting the sanctity of life?

Please tell me that is not what you are actually saying here...

 


It was just an example. I simply want control over when I have a child, and wouldnt take that choice away from anyone because of how I feel. I dont believe life begins at conception, I dont believe a fertilized egg is a life. And its not inconvenience, I know what sh*tty parents can be like and how they can affect a childs life and Im not doing that to my future child, so I am going to have a kid when I am ready not because of a mistake. And if that means having an abortion (Again, as I tell people I only hold 49% of the relationship stock) it wouldnt be an easy choice but it would be mine and not yours or the governments.

 


I would hazard a guess based on the vocabulary and references used by the respondents of this thread that they are well beyond their teenage years. For example anybody who jokes that they only hold 49% of the relationship stock is highly likely to be/have been married (I speak from experience there :na: )

The question of who gets to have the ultimate decision over what happens to an unintended pregnancy is essentially impossible to have a good solution to if there is a difference of opinion between the father and mother. Somebody is going to have to deal with an outcome that is bad for them and there is NO way around it.

1. Mother wants to keep the child, father does not.
a. Current system: The father's opinion gets discarded in the current system and he is legally and financially liable for a decision he did not make and in fact opposed. It gets even worse when you have a woman who is deceptive and lies to the man and HOPES that she becomes pregnant and can extort money from him. This doozy has to be one of the worst cases of that.

b. System where a father has the final word: the father would force the mother to have an abortion or give their child up for adoption.

c. So you attempt to have a compromise where the person who wants to have the baby can keep it but the other party can relinquish all rights and responsibilities to the child if they wish to. So the mother carries and has the baby she wanted and the father is completely free of the burdens he did not want. Guarantee what will happen is that you will end up with a lot of single mothers who do not want to have abortions/adoptions raising a child without any financial support from the FOB.

2. Father wants to keep the child, mother does not.
a. Current system: The father's opinion gets discarded and the child is aborted. The father does not get the chance to raise the child that he fathered.

b. System where the father has the final word: The mother is forced to carry a child she did not want, give birth to it, and then be required to financially support it. We will most certainly see a large increase in miscarriages (also "miscarriages") and severe birth defects as these women will seek abortions and ingest abortifacients/teratogenic agents in order to not be pregnant and have to raise a child they do not want.

c. A compromise system: The mother is forced to carry a child she did not want, give birth to it, but then no longer have any responsibility to it as the father raises the child by himself. My guess is that this will be a greatly attenuated version of 2b as the women are not saddled with the baby after delivery.

All of these solutions are varying degrees of bad. The best of the worst in my opinion are 1c and 2a. Forcing somebody to be financially responsible for a child they do not want is awful, depriving them of parenthood that they desire is awful, as is forcing somebody to carry a child they do not want or forcing them to have an abortion they do not want to have. The fact that women who are forced to carry a pregnancy they do not want will be varying degrees of likely to illegally get an abortion or try to miscarry turns the "no responsibility after birth for the mother" 2c into 2a, so we will go with 2a.



The life the "life is precious" people are defending is innocent life. A baby is innocent, it didn't do anything to anybody. Its entry into the world wasn't even its own decision. An enemy soldier or terrorist who is trying to kill/maim you is not innocent, neither is a murderer. They wilfully decided to cause harm to you and are thus liable for repercussions for their actions. This is also why we allow an insanity plea for heinous crimes- somebody who is insane or mentally retarded isn't truly aware of what they are doing and is thus not *wilfully* causing harm to you, and should not be subject to the same punishment that somebody who wilfully did those crimes would be.
 
MU brings up many great points.
Whats considered fair and doable care today allows for ealy child survival, and as we move ahead, a simple fertilized egg, with the proper care may eventually become a child, regardless of what currently think, as history disproves when viability begins, which is life, where in the past 24 weeks was considered non-life, as they werent viable with proper care, as the attempts to do so was fruitless.

If people are so certain about life, and the lives of people on top of that, my question then is, knowing history has proven wrong many who carried beliefs about the unviability of early fetal developement, its not as if this is a certainty of when life begins, and simply becomes an unhopeful convenience.

Now, when scientists and other non believers accuse believers of their supposed inability to achieve at their highest levels, because their beliefs somehow hold them back, the same can be said here about fetal viability and the non believers.

Point here is, neither do I believe that as we learn more, that non believers quit on these matters nor believers either put it in Gods hands, and dont try on other matters.
But more to the point, it actually shows how much more similar each side is than theyd readily admit