Dude, it's ultimately just wind and pressure differences. They're heavily studied and well-understood. There are wind tunnels for testing out materials & construction techniques, as well as tools like air cannons for firing 2x4 wood beams at speeds that tornadoes fling them.
If people are willing to spend the money, you can do a good job of building structures that can withstand them. This is routinely done for critical infrastructure, like hospitals and emergency response centers, in hurricane-prone and tornado-prone locations.
I think you're somehow conflating the randomness of their impact with some kind of inability to prepare for them, but that's not at all the case. It's engineering, not gambling - and not even rocket science, at that.
See it how you want. Throw science at it and link supporting documents all you want.
A corrugated aluminum warehouse withstood not only a major hurricane but tornadoes and stood TWICE while EVERY SINGLE BUILDING around it was completely destroyed. Many of them newer, many of them up to stricter code requirements. Blatantly random in its manner of damage that had absolutely ZERO to do with (man's) design.
I ain't trying to change your mind for you...and this is all I will say about it.