if other users can see it fine, then it's not the router but your adapter that is having an issue. i'd stop messing with the router to avoid bringing everyone else down with it.
It is an adapter issue, but the easiest fix is to adjust the router.
A few years after the FCC opened the 5 GHz band, it was discovered the the frequencies right in the middle of it were useful for a new type of doppler weather radar. It's increasingly used at airports to detect microbursts - sudden downdrafts which have caused several airliner crashes.
The FCC didn't want to close the 5 GHz band since it was already in extensive use. But they couldn't just allow it to destroy the usability of this radar. The compromise the FCC came up with was to reclassify 5 GHz channels 50-144 as DFS - dynamic frequency selection. WiFi equipment is allowed to use the DFS channels, but if they do they must monitor for weather radar. If they detect weather radar in use, they must automatically switch to a non-DFS channel.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_WLAN_channels#5_GHz_(802.11a/h/j/n/ac/ax)
Most WiFi equipment vendors did exactly this. They use channels 36-165, but if the detect weather radar on channels 50-144 they will switch to a channel between 36-48 or 149-165. Where things got screwed up is a few vendors took the easy way out - they simply blocked their equipment from using channels 50-144 entirely.
The problem crops up when your router is DFS-capable, but your adapter blocks DFS channels. If the router happens to randomly use channels 50-144, DFS-capable adapters can see it and have no problems. But a DFS-blocking adapter cannot see the router at all, since it's incapable of seeing those channels. This is why the telltale symptom of this problem is that some adapters can see the 802.11ac network, while others cannot.
The fix is to go into your WiFi router's settings, and manually set it to use a channel between 36-48 or 149-165. That guarantees it is operating on a channel that even DFS-blocking adapters can see. In the future, you may want to consider upgrading to a DFS-capable adapter, since your adapter cannot connect to public hotspots which are using the DFS channels. It's a PITA digging up specs to see the exact frequencies an adapter supports. But in this particular case it's important.
Edit: Incidentally, this is why the US and EU were considering banning third party router firmwares. It's not that they were opposed to you hacking your router. It's that the third party firmware authors were being lazy and not implementing DFS detection and automatic frequency shifting. It was causing problems at airports which used doppler radar, and it looked like the only way to solve it would be to ban third party firmware. Fortunately the third party firmware authors got the hint, and most of the firmwares I've seen now support DFS.