skele :
I had the CPU for 4 months, the graphic for 2, and they hav3 not given me any trouble at all while playing. Intel i5 and AMD 965 BE are on par tho i5 is greater due to their speed slightly, but still AMD CPU isn't the causes. I always do researches before buying parts for gaming PC. A lot of people I talked to are using AMD 965 Black Edition and never had any bottlenecks. So we can rule out the AMD CPU. I think it might be the card that's defective I doubt it due to MSI decent made card that's made for overclocking.
I did not say your troubles are because of the AMD processor. I said it's worse with the AMD processor. AMD CPU's do fine in most cases. If you look up an average FPS chart for several games, AMD CPU will look nearly the same as Intel's. The reason is because most games are more GPU bound than CPU bound. If the game is not held back by the CPU, they perform nearly the same. However, in games in which the CPU holds back FPS, like multiplayer BF3, or Skyrim, you will see lower FPS on an AMD CPU.
All of these are at 3.0Ghz. What makes this worse is that the Intel CPU's generally clock higher.
http://www.overclockers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=703662
Look at this post. You'll see with a stock i7 860 at 2.8ghz, he gets dips that are very low. To under 30 FPS. Once he OC's to 4Ghz, those minimums go over 50.
I am finding it hard to find tests for multiplayer and Phenom's. It seems BF3 likes more than 4 cores, so the hex core AMD cpu's do well, but looking at the Phenom 980, it didn't perform so well.
Anyways, your dips are a common problem in multiplayer, intel or AMD. When a game is CPU bound, and AMD CPU bottlenecks the game more. In a handful of cases, more than 4 cores does prove useful. Even the I7 hyperthreading helped, where it commonly does nothing.
Edit: Btw, I saw a lot of reviews of your CPU, and when OC'ed to 3.9Ghz, it just finally gets comparable to the i7 920 at stock (2.67Ghz) for gaming at least. It's not comparable to an i5-2500k.