A kit is 1 or more sticks that have been tested by the factory as being compatible, with each other. You get a 4x kit, all 4 sticks were tested simultaneously, with each other, any stick not compliant being replaced until all 4 were good.
A stick is a pcb with several chiplets of silicon welded to it. Those chiplets all come from the same sheet of silicon, so are naturally compatible. This is why you'll often see serial numbers on ram on a kit being consecutive, or close to it.
Brand, color, heatsink, means nothing. There's no guarantee that even identical looking ram, from the same store, same shelf, same day, one after the other, will be compatible. Different silicon chiplets from a different sheet of silicon.
You could mix 2x SkHynix Corsair LPX with 2x Micron Crucial sticks and have the exact same chances of compatibility as 2x identical kits of 2x sticks.
Your results will be 1 of 3 options. The kits will be compatible as is. The kits will be compatible after some tinkering with voltages or speeds or timings or any combination of those. The kits just simply don't like each other, at all and refuse any kind of working relationship.
This is why it's strongly recommended you purchase the entire amount wanted, in the speeds and model wanted, as a single kit. It's the only guarantee of compatibility out of the box.
Otherwise there's a decent likelihood of necessary tinkering or complete failure, and it's compounded exponentially with every stick. It's very, very hard to get all 8 sticks in compatibility, especially at higher than default speeds. It only takes 1 stick to be a little off and not like one other stick and the whole thing is bunk, it takes forever to find which stick is off. If at all.
And you can't return just 1 stick, you must return all 4x, and the process repeats. Maybe the new 4x will be compatible, maybe not. Could be the 1x off stick is on your original 4x, good enough for those 4x, but 100 kits later and still no joy.