Tj Hooker is not confused at all.
If you have two entangled photons, and you want to use this system to transfer information, let's say at a light year of distance, the first thing to do is to create the entangled system here on earth, than transfer one particle to the destination system. The transfer of the particle, in this case a photon, must obey relativity, so you need a year to transfer the information and only after that you can leverage the entanglement.
Moreover, there is no way to change the state of the components of the entangled system, you can only read the state and do collapse the "wave function".
About the "spooky distant action", Einstein is not wrong. Two entangled particles should be intended as an unique entity, and not as two distinct particles, so there is no real "distant action" .