RedJaron :
Leo, please do not add to the derailment. And if you're going to insinuate I'm being mean, rude, or nasty, I challenge you to point out any place I've resorted to name calling and personal insults.
Ego is the root of all flame wars.
Personal attacks only work if you accept them. If you simply take a policy if of stating that you don't respond to them and move on, then they lose their power.
The following sorts of things only escalate matters:
RedJaron :
Oh my. Zing! You really got me there. That snappy repartee really cut me to the core. Do I need to borrow your virtue signalling tactic and recite my system spec history for the last 20 years to prove I'm not the dreaded F word? It takes more than a few anonymous words in an online forum to ruffle my feathers.
You accepted the attack and got defensive.
RedJaron :
Your own words are, "What we do know though is Intel has been bending us all over for years," and, "We were all just chugging along accepting Nvidia to ream us for $550 for that privilege." So obviously you do have something against them.
Making the debate about the other person, instead of focusing on the point of disagreement.
RedJaron :
Again with the entitlement.
Unnecessary and turns a valid point into an attack.
RedJaron :
"The lady doth protest too much, methinks."
I'm probably missing some history, but I don't see how this adds value to the discussion.
RedJaron :
And don't forget that personal attacks and insults are against the forum ToD, so consider this your warning.
As a mod, you should aspire to a higher standard of conduct. Just my opinion.
RedJaron :
My words and arguments have been founded in logic and fact.
If an argument is not based on logic and fact, then point out what you find lacking and move on. Let them chose to reply with better data or drop the point completely. Don't try to corner them.
The main thing is that arguments on these forums are not
won. We can learn things by having debates and discussions, but you can't
make somebody admit they're wrong. What you
can do is focus on the
issues and make it easy for someone to back off or concede a point.
People make mistakes, don't have all the information, and don't all have the same abilities. Some are not native English speakers and some are just replying on their phone or tablet. When someone makes a misstep, don't rub their face in it.
IMO, 99% of the time you use your mod powers should be on exchanges between others. If you're frequently modding discussions that you're also involved in, then maybe step back and have a think about your approach and its impact.
Do you want to be a calming or an inflammatory influence, here? It's not about being weak vs. strong, it's about the decision to focus on the issues and try to shut down everything else with as little drama as possible.
Feel free to ignore this. I don't have a dog in this fight. These are just some lessons I've learned that I thought I'd take time to share.