Hey not sure about a guide, but really the important thing is to get the CPU overclocked properly and the RAM will follow. But here's a little of what I've found:
-at any given latency, you can only get so much speed.
-You'll want to try to pick a base clock (or FSB) that will give you the most RAM speed possible
-There seems to be roughly 200mhz increase per latency IE: 1400mhz CL7, 1600mhz CL8, 1800mhz CL9 but these are close to maximums. I have my 1600mhz CL8 RAM running at 1412mhz CL7 currently. I had it at 1426 CL7 but I couldn't get stress test stable until I bumped the DIMM voltage up from 1.65 to 1.68. However, after a week or two suddenly my mobo only reconized 2.8gb of RAM. I dropped the clocks back down to the current 1412 with the DIMM voltage back to 1.65 and once again all 8gb were being detected. I guess what I'm getting at is don't go over the max voltage spec 1.65 as it can cause issues.
So, yeah, basically your target should be roughly 1400, 1600, 1800 mhz so that you can max out a latency but each RAM chip will be a little different. Some might do 1650 CL8 some only 1610 CL8 so it's really a matter of luck
Oh and as for Command Rate, 2T isn't really any slower. From what I read, it allows 2 clocks for initial bit finding but after that it's just as fast, so the slow down in performance is very minimal under most circumstances while the payoff is it might allow higher RAM clocks.
I also found that CL and tRCD are two big ones for stability while tRP seems to make no difference on performance. IMO just go with standard settings (7-7-7-21, 8-8-8-24, 9-9-9-27 etc). Also you can generally leave the advanced timings on auto... I've fooled around with them and also can't say there was any difference in performance. The biggest thing is CPU clock and overall RAM clock moreso than all the extended timings.