Sorry if this is covered by someone else, or even if my assumption seems stupid to some, but have you ever thought that after throwing so much hardware at it, perhaps the problem isn't in how much memory or CPU or video card muscle you throw at it, but the software itself just isn't capable of going any faster?
oh, and no surprise windows didn't run those games any faster. systems with 2GB and higher will see no real impact from gaming as long as you have a video card worth its weight in the system.
also, another benefit from running this much memory (I run 8GB DDR3-1600, an intel Q6600 @3.6GHz w/50% FSB OC on an ASUS Maximus Extreme myself), at least as far as windows is concerned, is that you can shut off your paging file and let your hardware do its job. i know my system runs a ton faster and i suffer no ill effects from lack of a page file.
just sonething to think about in the next benchmark, perhaps - shut off the windows page file and then let's see the numbers.