does that give enough information on what I'm trying to do and what hardware I have?
Unfortunately not. As kari also said, you need to find the exact motherboard that you have. A part number should be visible somewhere on it. If you can't figure out what motherboard you have, then you can't get a hacked BIOS for it (assuming that one meeting your requirements exists).
You already know that Dell might not have lied to you about the FSB - you installed a FSB 1066 CPU and the motherboard runs it at 800. I presume that you flashed the latest BIOS to make absolutely sure that it won't support the 1066 FSB using a Dell BIOS.