I don't think that you need to reset your cooling because the temperatures seems pretty reasonable. If temperature continues to be an issue, just disable hyperthreading. There aren't many games that utilize more than even one thread, and four is more than enough for multitasking. If I remember correctly, I once tried operating at 4 ghz w/o hyperthreading on 1.55 v and had temperatures at about 70 degrees before I had a blue screen (they probably would have gone up more though if the cpu lasted longer).
As far as the memory goes, you get your ram frequency from the base clock multiplied by the ram multiplier. That way, if you have a base clock of 180 and a multiplier of 8, you're running it at 1440. Even though your ram is rated as 1600 mhz, it normally comes at 1066mhz and you have to change a lot of settings to get the frequency higher. It might have latencies of 7-7-7-21-1T and 1.5 volts(I don't quite understand everything behind the timings, but the rule is that lower is better performance but uses more voltage) but to run at 1600 mhz you may need 8-8-8-24-2T at 1.65 volts. When your done with your cpu overclocking, you'll be best off if you do a bit of quick research on ram overclocking and set lower timings, like 6-6-6-18-1T. That's because those latencies can actually affect performance, while the difference between 800mhz ram and 2000mhz ram boosts frames per second by something like 1-3% (I think that it's so small is because ram has a very small cache, so even though you have a high frequency the ram doesn't have enough data waiting for it when space clears up. There's a recent article on it in the memory section of the site here:
http://www.tomshardware.com/reviews/memory-scaling-i7,2325.html ). You might operate at 1400mhz, but without voltage increases it's as though the ram actually is overclocked, because it has specific settings it needs to be at to run at that. Basically, you're probably best off if you use the lowest multiplier on the ram and putting it at 1.65 volts just so you know that it isn't a variable right now, and lower your latencies later. The less variables you have to deal with in the bios, the easier it is to get to your problem, which is the reasoning behind lowering all of the multipliers: only overclock one thing at a time. I'm not sure, but I think that the reason the uncore multiplier has to be twice the ram (or 2x+1 in some cases) is because that is basically the memory controller, so it has to read the ram and write the ram, and thus twice or twice +1. (If you bios allows odd number multipliers, just make it 6:13 instead of 6:12 because the bios might have set it with an error of +/- some hertz, and if it's minus I don't think your computer starts up and you have to reset everything.) I wouldn't worry about getting confused with the ram though. To this day, I can't get my 1600 mhz ram above 1400, and I think my bios misunderstands the ram's xmp (which supposedly are the settings to get the most mhz) and I just lowered my timings to 6-6-6-19-1T at 1200 mhz.
A while back I found a good post explaining the ratios. Just a heads up though: it mentions a 8:9 ratio of uncore to qpi, but don't worry about that when you're overclocking. I don't think that it's very important (and there is still a thread on this forum discussing it here: http://www.tomshardware.com/forum/forum2.php?config=tomshardwareus.inc&cat=29&post=253478&page=1&p=1&sondage=0&owntopic=1&trash=0&trash_post=0&print=0&numreponse=0"e_only=0&new=0&nojs=0) However, I found out that apparently the qpi doesn't work past 4 ghz (not the cpu speed at 4 ghz, but the qpi's frequency) That might be important if you have a x22 multiplier for the qpi because that would mean you can't go above a base clock of 181. With the other available multiplier of x18, you can go up to a base clock of 222. The link is here, but again, don't worry about the 8:9 ratio he talks about.
http://www.xtremesystems.org/forums/showpost.php?p=3495431&postcount=877
This is Tom's Hardware's overclock:
http://www.tomshardware.com/reviews/overclock-core-i7,2268.html
X-Bit Labs':
http://www.xbitlabs.com/articles/cpu/display/core-i7-920-overclocking.html
I think bottom line is don't be afraid to mess around with it and try lots of different configurations. I personally like having a high base clock and a lower multiplier, but I've tried it dozens of ways. Every once in a while I go back into my bios and see if I can get a higher one, but it usually doesn't work. But it looks like you have a good chip so see what high you can get it.